A Friendship Like No Other

“Close friends, that Day, will be enemies to each other, except for the righteous.” {Zukhruf: 67} 

A verse that I’ve heard many times but have only now fathomed its true weight. It basically means that any friendship based on pretence, evil and sin will in fact cost a person their spot in Paradise. In this world they drank, danced and deceived everyone as a team. They had the whole ‘Brother from another mother’ and ‘Sister from another mister,’ vibe going on. They were the BFF’s of the century and had each others’ backs’ at all times. They were inseparable so to speak. However, there’s something about this friendship everyone seemed to overlook.

It’s short lived. 

Why? Due to the fact that they didn’t meet each other for the purposes of remembering their Lord. True friends nudge you when you’re about to gossip, they force you to be positive, they encourage good thoughts + words, they forgive your shortcomings, they want good for you, they advice you in light of the Quran + Sunnah, they support your dreams + ambitions, they help + respect you and above all, love you because Allah expects this of them. Thus on Judgement Day, these so called friends will hate, despise and become enemies to one another. Everyone except those who believed in Allah. 




But first, Intention

When you’ve made up your mind to do something, it could be anything- just do it. You can do anything if you put your mind to it but there are a couple of things you need to get straight.

  1. Intention: why are you doing what you want to do? Who are you doing it for? What is the purpose?
  2. Effort: are you willing to do whatever it takes to fulfill your dream? Scribbling down ideas whenever they materialize, making structured plans, consulting experts, a few sleepless nights, research and undergoing the process of trial and error are all part of this condition
  3. Divine Help: do you have a connection with your Creator? Do you maintain a belief in a Higher and Superior Being? If so, life in general is a lot easier to deal with because it doesn’t matter if things go right or wrong, you believe that everything happens for a reason. You learn to rely and trust in God and you train yourself to be grateful in every situation.

Be Yourself & Build Yourself

If you’re passionate about something and you love it so much, then go after it until Allah takes your life – My Quran Teacher

Life is too short for us to spend it on measly and wasteful things. We have one life, one time, one chance to make it right. One of my teachers explained to me how she had studied the Quran almost 10 years ago and she took up the course online. She would think to herself that if she was an onsite student (who attended the Institute in Canada live), she would make sure to do things very differently in order to accommodate students like herself from other parts of the world. Now, almost 10 years later she’s an Online Course Coordinator for the very same Institute and very same course.

My Teacher then went on to say the words I’ve quoted above. If you want something, don’t squander your time and resources on things that have no value but invest it in something long lasting. For instance; you might have a passion for writing. Don’t spend another minute thinking about how it’s impossible for you to pursue it at this stage in your life but get yourself a typewriter, laptop or whatever else have you, sit yourself at a window start writing.

You might want to start up a business even, go ahead and do it. Write down a plan perhaps in the form of a web diagram; what’s the objective? What’s the product? What type of audience are you targeting? What is your role? The list goes on. The point is- you can do it if you  really want it.

Keep working towards what you want. You goals, ambitions and aspirations. Whatever it maybe, go after it. Don’t stop. Stay motivated and be different. Be yourself and Build yourself. 

You know what He wants you to

When Allah decided to create Adam, He informed the angels of this. The angels, in their limited knowledge asked Allah in response if He was really going to do this. This question wasn’t one of objection or rebuke rather one of true curiosity. The reason behind this was because of the corruption the creation prior to human beings had caused. The jinn.

Allah showed the angels that the creation of Adam was going to be different. The human being is intelligent and capable of doing good. When Allah taught Adam the names of things; objects, languages and so on, He ordered the angels to name them if they could,

وَعَلَّمَ ءَادَمَ ٱلْأَسْمَآءَ كُلَّهَا ثُمَّ عَرَضَهُمْ عَلَى ٱلْمَلَٰٓئِكَةِ فَقَالَ أَنۢبِـُٔونِى بِأَسْمَآءِ هَٰٓؤُلَآءِ إِن كُنتُمْ صَٰدِقِينَ
And He taught Adam the names – all of them. Then He showed them to the angels and said, “Inform Me of the names of these, if you are truthful.” {al-Baqarah:31}

In response the angels said,

قَالُوا۟ سُبْحَٰنَكَ لَا عِلْمَ لَنَآ إِلَّا مَا عَلَّمْتَنَآ ۖ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ ٱلْعَلِيمُ ٱلْحَكِيمُ
They said, “Exalted are You; we have no knowledge except what You have taught us. Indeed, it is You who is the Knowing, the Wise.” {al-Baqarah:32}

There’s a great lesson in this for us. The angels don’t know anything other than what Allah wills for them to know. Similarly we as human beings have limited knowledge. We only know what Allah allows for us to know about.

Self Reminder Series #8

Abdullah didn’t know what bothered him more. Was it the fact that he had done the same mistake yet again or whether he let himself be fooled into thinking that he was strong enough to resist. In any case the deed had been done and regret had settled at the bottom of his troubled heart. What do I do? Where do I go from here? He smacks his forehead and leans against the door to his friend’s room. What was I thinking?

His mother had asked him how the studying was going and he lied saying they’d made flash cards and quizzes to help retain everything they’d learned, little did she know that he was doing anything but that. He was helping Sulaiman, a friend from his Statistics class, hook up with a long time crush. He knew this was wrong but it was hard to say no to Sulaiman. The guy had persuasion skills like nobody else he’d ever met before.

Abdullah felt a wave of anger crush him as he thought about his behaviour. He promised his mother he would change after she caught him with a pack of cigarettes two months ago. Everything had been going well until Sulaiman came along. It was safe to say this guy was not a good influence no matter how smart he was. I need to stop this. Abdullah returns to the room and tells his friend that he can’t stay. Sulaiman raises an eyebrow with a tinge of arrogance as if to say, “you’re not going anywhere.” Abdullah suddenly didn’t care. He wanted to simply get out of here and be true to himself, so he did exactly that. 

وَهُوَ الْغَفُورُ الْوَدُودُ 
And He is the Forgiving, the Affectionate, {al-Buruj:14} 

Allah عز و جل is the most Forgiving and Loving One. Don’t ever forget that. No matter how many sins you’ve earned or how big, your Lord is always ready to respond and forgive you so long as you realise your mistake and make an effort to come back to Him.

Emotional Dump

Some feelings are really inexplainable. Words can’t form a sentence to describe the kind of chaos the heart goes through after every test and trial. Especially as people who claim to believe in Allah and the last Day. One day it’s a death in the family, then a financial crisis then bad grades at school then a car accident then being a victim of racial slurrs then a child throwing a tantrum then a sick relative and the list continues. After every single difficulty the heart is affected. Good or bad, the heart internalises everything. It’s emotionally charged.

Hence the famous words; ‘heartache,’ and ‘heartbreak.’ The heart feels every single emotion we go through. Many thoughts run through our mind at that point like; when will this end? Wait, will this end to begin with? I’m so tired of it. I’m sick of it. I want to move on from this. But the test is only chasing you everywhere you go and you come to a conclusion that you don’t know if you’re dying as a result of holding on so much or if you’re only becoming more resilient to the test. I can say from experience that you’re only becoming stronger. So hold on, no matter what.

Self Reminder Series #7

Jamila and her brother stared at the news silently. Their hearts filled with shock and slight terror at what was going on in Palestine. Jerusalem was being claimed to be the Capital of Israel. You might be wondering, who said this? An under-qualified president who’s name doesn’t deserve to be mentioned. Jamila could feel her blood boil at the absurdity of all of this. Her mind flashes back to an Ayah she learned in class which comes in the context of the corruption that has spread throughout the earth. 

قُلْ سِيرُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ فَانظُرُوا كَيْفَ كَانَ عَاقِبَةُ الَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلُ ۚكَانَ أَكْثَرُهُم مُّشْرِكِينَ
Say, [O Prophet], “Travel through the land and observe how was the end of those before. Most of them were associators [of others with Allah]. 
 فَأَقِمْ وَجْهَكَ لِلدِّينِ الْقَيِّمِ مِن قَبْلِ أَن يَأْتِيَ يَوْمٌ لَّا مَرَدَّ لَهُ مِنَ اللَّـهِ ۖ يَوْمَئِذٍ يَصَّدَّعُونَ
So direct your face toward the correct religion before a Day comes from Allah of which there is no repelling. That Day, they will be divided. {ar-Rum: 42-43} 

The verses are as clear as day in her mind. Allah tells us to travel and see what happened to the corrupters of the previous generations. To take a lesson from their lives and never to repeat their actions as it will inevitably lead to the same disastrous outcome- annihilation. 

There’s no point tweeting at him and making a mockery of him, is there? Badr voiced his thoughts. Jamila smiled softly at her 12 year old brother because he didn’t even have an account to begin with. In any case she advised against it. The only solution is to become more firm and obedient to our religion. Can’t we tweet and mock him and then…? Jamila chuckled at her brother’s persistence. There’s no way we’re doing that. The best way to teach him a lesson is by following our religion the right way. The conversation ended there. 

Self Reminder Series #6

Jabir was a responsible driver on most days but when it was time for him to leave work, he was like a two year old child tasting candy for the first time. Yes, overly hyper and thrilled. Right now however he was stuck in traffic and the radio had nothing interesting going on. He fidgeted in his seat and groaned at the line of cars in front of him. He glanced around uninterestedly till he saw a Masjid to his left.

It didn’t have a calm or serene vibe to it. There were bright lights and green cloths tied to the gates. People rushed in and out, some shouted instructions to others. A few people handed out what Jabir assumed were flyers. His curiosity spiked as he leaned into the window screen and realised that there was a shrine inside the Masjid! His mouth fell open at the sight. This has to be a joke he thought to himself. This wasn’t what he was taught as a child! 

وَأَنَّ الْمَسَاجِدَ لِلَّـهِ فَلَا تَدْعُوا مَعَ اللَّـهِ أَحَدًا
And [He revealed] that the Masjids are for Allah, so do not invoke with Allah anyone. {al-Jinn: 18}

Indeed, the Masjid is a place of worship to the One Creator- Allah. He has no equal or partner. Anyone who raises their hands and makes Dua to anything besides Allah has in fact committed Shirk. The GREATEST sin. Yes, let that sink in. Allah protect us. 

Self Reminder Series #5

She didn’t know when to give up, the young man thought to himself as he glared at his phone. She sent him yet another message of what time she wanted to meet him despite the fact that he cancelled on her twice. Lately he hasn’t felt any inclination to hangout with this girl he’d been seeing over the past few months. Ever since his friend Wasim dragged him to the Masjid for Isha, he hasn’t been himself. 

I mean, who’d pass on an opportunity to be with a beautiful and popular girl? This girl was everything a man would want; her good looks, charming personality, amiable and wealthy family. You name it, she had it. But for some reason, every night as he prayed, he’d feel a weight on his heart. One that physically hurt and put him on edge. He didn’t like it at all.

He realised it had something to do with the fact that in his religion, this was wrong. Mixing, flirting and getting physical (as he had done) with a Non-Mahram girl was forbidden. That night, as he stood next to Wasim and the Imam began the congregation prayer, he recited the following Ayah,

اتْلُ مَا أُوحِيَ إِلَيْكَ مِنَ الْكِتَابِ وَأَقِمِ الصَّلَاةَ ۖ إِنَّ الصَّلَاةَ تَنْهَىٰ عَنِ الْفَحْشَاءِ وَالْمُنكَرِ ۗ وَلَذِكْرُ اللَّـهِ أَكْبَرُ ۗ وَاللَّـهُ يَعْلَمُ مَا تَصْنَعُونَ
Recite, [O Muhammad], what has been revealed to you of the Book and establish prayer. Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the remembrance of Allah is greater. And Allah knows that which you do.

Could it be that as he gets closer to Allah through prayer, he gets further away from sin?

Self Reminder Series #4

Aliya growled at the mirror and tossed a makeup brush in its direction. She tried so hard to make a winged line at the crease her eyelid but it got smudged. Her eyes were too small, her nose too big, her cheeks too low, her hairline to high and her skin too blotchy. The list of course continued in her mind but she was depressed as it was and reminding herself of these flaws would only make it worse. 

She stomped to the washroom and washed her face completely. Her Mac foundation swivelled in the sink along with her expensive blush and eyeshadow. What a waste she thought but at this point she didn’t have a care in the world. All she was concerned about was how looked like a pizza face. She HATED the way she looked. Nothing could make her feel better. 

ثُمَّ خَلَقْنَا النُّطْفَةَ عَلَقَةً فَخَلَقْنَا الْعَلَقَةَ مُضْغَةً فَخَلَقْنَا الْمُضْغَةَ عِظَامًا فَكَسَوْنَا الْعِظَامَ لَحْمًا ثُمَّ أَنشَأْنَاهُ خَلْقًا آخَرَ ۚ فَتَبَارَكَ اللَّـهُ أَحْسَنُ الْخَالِقِينَ
Then We made the sperm-drop into a clinging clot, and We made the clot into a lump [of flesh], and We made [from] the lump, bones, and We covered the bones with flesh; then We developed him into another creation. So blessed is Allah, the best of creators. {Mu’minun: 14}

Aliya remembered her friend explain to her a new Surah she had learned. It was Surah Mu’minun and in particular this verse. Her mind is filled with a mixture of ingratitude and regret. How could she have such negative thoughts about herself when Allah is the Best of Creators?

Self Reminder Series #3

Khadijah sighed tiredly and sunk into her bed. Her day was long and exhausting and as you read about her routine you’ll understand why. She woke up at 3.00 am, offered her Tahajjud Salah, memorised and listened to a portion of the Quran, reviewed her class notes, offered her Fajr Salah, got ready for class, ate breakfast and was at class which was from 9.00 am to 2.00pm. She stayed at the Institute and continued her work till it was time to attend a social event with her friends from 4.00pm-7.00pm. She got home by 8.00pm only to find her mother packing a a big suit case. Confusion masked her face as she questioned her about what was going on.

Her mother informed her that their flight to go abroad for the purpose of vacation and gaining knowledge was brought forward due to an emergency. Khadijah didn’t feel as thrilled as she would’ve been on any other day. She wanted nothing more than to take a sleeping pill and knock off for a week but that was unrealistic and selfish. She bit her cheek and began packing her own luggage without another word. Now she thought about how Allah was testing her and she couldn’t help but feel the question of ‘Why me?’ set it. She wasn’t trying to be ungrateful but that’s exactly how she felt. Then her thoughts fled to this Ayah in the Quran, 

وَجَاهِدُوا فِي اللَّـهِ حَقَّ جِهَادِهِ ۚ هُوَ اجْتَبَاكُمْ وَمَا جَعَلَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ مِنْ حَرَجٍ ۚ مِّلَّةَ أَبِيكُمْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ۚ هُوَ سَمَّاكُمُ الْمُسْلِمِينَ مِن قَبْلُ وَفِي هَـٰذَا لِيَكُونَ الرَّسُولُ شَهِيدًا عَلَيْكُمْ وَتَكُونُوا شُهَدَاءَ عَلَى النَّاسِ ۚ فَأَقِيمُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَآتُوا الزَّكَاةَ وَاعْتَصِمُوا بِاللَّـهِ هُوَ مَوْلَاكُمْ ۖ فَنِعْمَ الْمَوْلَىٰ وَنِعْمَ النَّصِيرُ 
And strive for Allah with the striving due to Him. He has chosen you and has not placed upon you in the religion any difficulty. [It is] the religion of your father, Abraham. Allah named you “Muslims” before [in former scriptures] and in this [revelation] that the Messenger may be a witness over you and you may be witnesses over the people. So establish prayer and give zakah and hold fast to Allah. He is your protector; and excellent is the protector, and excellent is the helper.

Khadijah thought about how Allah chose her for His work. She strove for the Pleasure of her Lord and not for self comfort. Life isn’t easy but it isn’t meant to be. Plus nothing worth having comes easy. Jannah is priceless, now what do you say about that?